Moving can be extremely stressful and combining two lives can be… Messy. Having a conversation with your partner about moving in together before bringing all of your baggage is the first place to start. It’s much easier to let go (physically and emotionally) of items, before bringing them into your new home.
Tag Important Items
Take a sticky note or colored tape and tag all of the items in your home or apartment that are especially important to you. Then you can send photos or upload them onto a shared document with your partner.
Find a Common Style
Scroll through pinterest or interior design inspiration photos and tag 5 of your favorites. Then show your partner and narrow it down to a common style you both agree on. This will help to decide what stays and what goes based on whether it fits your combined style preferences.
Let Go of Old Items
Break up with your belongings and start with a clean slate! Let go of things that represent your single past to make space for building new memories together. Design a home that is a combination of both of your styles to create a sanctuary for your new life.
Give your partner’s style a chance! Before refusing to put up their beloved light up “Pink Floyd” sign, consider new spots that aren’t the center of the home for their things, like a home office, man-cave or bathroom to store more personal items. You could even designate a room to each person! For example, Sarah has free reign to design the bedroom however she wants while Tom can put his record collection in the home office with his light up sign.
Tip: If you each have a collection of signs and artwork create a gallery wall that incorporates your pieces together.
How to decide if you should keep something
First, consider if you actually need this item. Do you already have three spatulas and two sets of silverware? Perhaps there is a friend or a charity that you could donate this extra set to. Second, let your partner know if there is an emotional meaning to the item. Was it passed down through your family and none of your siblings wanted to keep the table? It is important to communicate these significances to your partner. Not only will you discover more about each other, you will understand why you should make a sacrifice to keep Great Aunt Jodie’s side table.
If you are not ready to part with some of your things, then box them up and keep it to go through later on! Just make sure to go through your items later on and re-evaluate whether or not to keep them. Happy Moving!
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